In a relationship there will always be one person who's the one who often takes a deep breath and let's things go - even if they know 101% that they were right.
Why do we do it? Simple. Love is being able to forgive the unforgivable.
The trouble starts when the opposite side realizes that you're the one and uses it to their advantage. But then again, what can you do? Other than just smile and hold it in as normal, until the time comes one day when your cup just overflows. Then, you'll start to think and think and think. You'll feel like shit, you'll feel so useless.
So now you have a choice. Get yourself a bigger cup or tell the tea pot, "that's enough."
100% Agreed.
ReplyDeleteI really don’t have much experience in this area and I might be naive in saying this, but that just seems more like a fling then a real relationship or at least the honeymoon phase of a relationship. You can forgive the unforgivable because you’re in the bliss of a new and adventurous relationship. You ignore everything else because you’re on the high from the passion. Eventually the passion dies down and the relationship gets old and the little things become big things. I think that if your just holding it in and smiling then it isn't a real relationship because there isn't any communication that can develop into compassion. True love is about having passion and compassion for the other person. I think that if the other person honestly loves you, then they shouldn’t care about being “right” or “wrong” if it means taking advantage of you. Just standing back and letting you take the weight of the relationship seems to be the selfish thing to do. Sure, you might love someone so much that want to take a weight of the burden and forgive everything the other does. But they should feel the same way also. It’s kind of a catch 22 if you think about it, where both people wants to take the burden so the other doesn’t. I think that the only thing you can really do is talk about it. You might get your way and you might not, but at least you have a deeper understanding of the other person so that you can reach a compromise. This might be a stupid example, but the new Harold and Kumar movie had a really good scene where Harold talks about going through hell and back not because you HAVE to, but because you WANT to so you can make the person you love happy.
ReplyDeleteWell that's the opinion of this geek at least.
What you said would be true if the scene is in a traditional setting. But, we're living in the digital age where one click can change any outcome in an instance without knowing the full facts. I can't give you sound advice about your current situation because I'm not a love specialist. I can, though, reluctantly understand the "jerk" you want to let go. I've been in that dude shoes before and I'm pretty sure his cup of tea been brimming with love since summertime. Someone said it best, talking about what's wrong with the tea pot in the first place can resolve a lot of issues.
ReplyDeleteI like tea.
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